Saturday, January 23, 2010

THE "SANCTITY" OF "MARRIAGE" (in a materialistic viewpoint)

(in a realistic-materialistic viewpoint)

People marry for many reasons, most often including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. And these might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and the last but not the least, a public declaration of love.

despite these reasons behind marriage, this social union simply emphasized much into the domination of males over females in setting off ideas and actions instead of a collective approach, of having husbands working while their wives at home, or in case of these couples working-end up fighting out of an obligation, like paying off debts; these shows how marriage, once an idea driven by "love", became more of a materialistic mean-due to its profound objective of setting up a family.

According to Engels' Origins of the Family, Private Property, and the State:
"...We meet this new form of the family in all its severity among the Greeks. While the position of the goddesses in their mythology, as Marx points out, brings before us an earlier period when the position of women was freer and more respected, in the heroic age we find the woman already being humiliated by the domination of the man and by competition from girl slaves."

This shows how women, especially in the age of heroes (including today) end up dominated by the machismo-motivated men, of becoming slaves at home and even at work despite seeing, thinking of them as a respected being, a goddess to be praised out of their beauty and of whatsoever coming from them. And worse? Using sugar coated ideas of love, marriage, family, to weaken woman's idea and submit to their will.

weddings in Soviet Russia 1

All of these ideas that affects marriage are true, and it remains prevalent despite the rise of feminism and of gender equality. And I, being a male writer who knows much regarding them really sympathized much in their plight, that these girls who called for gender equality also includes an end for the male domination within the marriage scene and make marriage, a social union of husband and wife within the family a collective partnership; somehow it also includes the decision on paying debts, of rearing children, of taking care of the home and anything around the sun to make marriage and familyhood work.

Marriage, being a sacred contract being set upon, is not just a mere public declaration of love, but a new obligation to be undertaken; and both husband and wife ought to act comradely and collectively in averting problems-to-be within the relationship and in the family-all in a means to make the children happy. And for sure we don't want a good marriage end up a tragic one out of submission and conflict don't we?